Tuesday, February 11, 2014

All Aboard!

You know those days where nothing goes as planned? Do days ever go as planned when you're a parent? Forgot about strategic planning its about being innovative in the moment, right?! As parents we are constantly thinking outside, inside, on top of, under and even on the side of the box. As much as I know this I am sometimes the first in line to get my ticket to Pity Town.

My middle son was sick late Sunday evening and I kept him home from school. I enjoyed taking care of him and I took advantage of this by getting extra hugs and kisses. Normally he says he is too old to be showered in hugs or kisses by mom. I felt bad because I couldn't miss class and I felt horrible that I had to leave my son with my teenager. Not that there is anything wrong with my teenager he is very responsible, it was that I should have taken care of him. I took the toddler to the sitters but I couldn't bring my sick child there. I felt annoyed leaving my sick kid, going to school, leaving my teenager in charge, not having copious amounts off coffee before I left. I was standby ready to purchase my ticket to Pity Town. 

When I was in class my teenager texted me over and over, As my professor was going over the materials. Mind you the first day of class we are told if our cellphone becomes a distraction we are asked to leave the class and we get a % off our participation for that day. I'm already not on the greatest terms with my professor and I missed a presentation last week. BUZZ BUZZ BUZZZZ is the only sound you heard. I was trying to text as I was taking notes, clearly you can see I am not good at multitasking. What the text should have read; I am in class is this an ER? 

I finally had to step outside call my son and tell him that I would handle this HUGE issue when I got home. I told him I couldn't talk and had to get back to class. I texted him after I hung up confirming that that I would handle the situation when I got home. Since I couldn't talk he decided to call me to continue the conversation, I had to send a text asking if he was ok. 




Since mom can't talk or text he thought if he sent me a video explaining his side of the argument that would be ok. The HUGE issue you ask, my middle son didn't want to read. He wanted to lay on the sofa and just veg out after doing a huge abdominal workout by vomiting. Clearly I wasn't being as militant as I should have been and my lack of leaderships skills upset my teenager. How could I let his brother slack off, when he is required to do his homework? Why should his brother get a hall pass, clearly he felt he needed to man up. 




After I got out of class I got a text that my boys were hungry, I didn't feel like being a short order cook when I got home so I stopped by the place that is next to my school. I was trying to make small talk;

Me: You saved me from having to make another meal tonight. 
Real Short order cook: Next time use a crockpot
Me: (Clearly I pissed him off after ordering and handing him a buy one get one free coupon) Or come in without a coupon next time?  
Real Short order cook: Deer in headlight stare with evil eye twitch


For the next fifteen minutes as I was waiting for my Greek food, I was schooled on the correct way to say Gyro. That was the tzatziki sauce on the pita, and after that the conversation was a bit more pleasant. 

By the time I got home it was peaceful nothing was wrong with the world according to my boys. Maybe it had to do something with mom having a bag full of food? That always seems to be the cure. I was so happy that I had the buy one get one free coupon as my middle son, clearly got the free one….it was money well spent on my teenager. My middle son met the fate again of the porcelain throne. 

It was too late to take a trip to Pity Town, party due to being exhausted. I still had my bags packed by the door. 

Tuesday morning and my son is crying that he needs a kale and orange smoothie. Anyone who knows my middle son would know that this is delirious babble. As his favorite vegetable is a french fry!



 I take him to the doctor and he is ordered to stay home for one more day. The doctor said how happy she is that he is drinking kale smoothies. Erm…at that moment I bet she wished he didn't' have that orange and kale smoothie. My son's stomach was probably in agreement with the latter statement.

My day went like this

Boy: Mommy I'm hungry please make me a peanut butter and jelly sandwich 

Boy: Are you sure you put jelly on this sandwich? (looks at sandwich) Oh ok I see it, next time can you put the jelly on both sides of the bread.

Boy: Mommy my stomach hurts

Boy: Mommy the good news is I made it to the bathroom, the bad news is its all over the floor.

Boy: I'm hungry again!

Boy: I don't want water I want something to eat.

Boy: Mommy which should I do first, vomit or #2. Do you have a bucket incase I need to do it at the same time because I can't choose?

Boy: Mommy I don't remember eating this, can you look at this?

Boy: Please mommy I need to eat I'm hungry please make me something to eat.

Boy: Mommy I should have listened to you, I'm so sorry. I put the lysol and clorox in the bathroom for you so you don't have to make an extra trip to the bathroom to clean it. 

Boy: Mommy if you febreze the sofa it won't smell that bad.

Forget the ticket to Pity Town, I exchanged my ticket for a first class ticket on the Crazy train! 

In my heart I was upset and tired. I wasn't able to study, I had to pick my other two kids from school, make dinner, help with their homework, take kids to other activities, clean up from dinner, pack lunches, 


give baths,  do laundry, clean, clean and clean! This is not how I anticipated my day, I felt bad for my sickie and I don't like seeing my boys in pain or not feeling well. What parent does?

Then it happened, the train stopped in its tracks….

Boy: Mommy I want to thank you for taking care of me. You are the best mommy in the world and I like being in your arms when I am not feeling well. I like how you take care of me. I love you so much you're the best. 

My heart melted and the rest didn't matter. I am so blessed to have boys,  as long as I have them it doesn't matter what happens or what the day entails. Its all about perspective and I thank God for that! 

It might not have been my perfectly planned day, what does perfectly planned look like again when you have kids? Its all perfectly planned down to the vomit, its perspective. The little things in life the moments that we take for granted the moments we will be yearning for when we close our eyes and blink. When we are forced to fast forward 10 years wishing for those times (maybe not the vomit) when our life was chaos. Or what we thought chaos was. When in actuality its what we all signed up for as parents. I don't want to get off this ride, Pity train yes, crazy train well that comes with the territory with three boys.  I am ALL for getting ABOARD the crazy train with my boys even if they are the conductors! 



54 comments:

mail4rosey said...

awww, it's awful when they're sick, isn't it??? I love that he was so sweet to you. :)

Masshole Mommy said...

I hear ya - I hate it when my boys are sick. I spend my day wishing it was me instead of them - although, it's no fun when mom is sick, either.

Beth said...

Sounds like you've had quite the week. Hope everyone starts feeling better soon.

Debi@ The Spring Mount 6 pack said...

Ugh. It sounds like that kind of week. Hope it all ends soon.

Tara said...

So sorry about your sickie week! We were like that in January - no fun! Hope you all feel better soon!

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

Your heart probably melted into a puddle on the floor with that comment. That was very sweet.

Gabrielle Presley said...

As the mother of a small son {and an even smaller daughter}, I can definitely relate. With everything we have going on in our lives, it's easy to let the most important small things frustrate us. I get frustrated with my son sometimes and it's funny how something as a simple thank you from him will make all that frustration just leak away.

Christy said...

Sounds like such an eventful week! Gee Whiz! But hey, it helps us appreciate the calm moments in our life.

Nicole A. said...

Hope the boys are feeling better. Kids can be so funny. My kiddo gets so needy sometimes. It's hard not to get frustrated. I try to remember to enjoy it while I can.

theroadtodomestication.com said...

Oh my goodness, what a post! LOL You're such a good momma :)

Vinma said...

I can totally relate- I find it really hard to leave my children to go to work if one of them is not feeling too well. My mind will be with them even if my body is at work and nothing will see right until I see them again.

Emily Stephens said...

What a week girl! You need a massage and a pedicure! Book it today!

Sherrie W. said...

Awww, so sorry for the rough day, but at least you have a sense of humor about it. I love your sick son, "I put the lysol and clorox in the bathroom for you so you don't have to make an extra trip to the bathroom to clean it." haha! you deserve a day (at least) for being pampered!

Jen B said...

Sounds like a totally crazy day and I hope you all feel better soon!

Pam said...

Seems like everyone is sick lately! Your poor son. I have had many crazy days like that with my own kids. I hope he feels better soon.

Lawna Noe said...

My kids had a tummy bug in December and all four of them ended up catching it. Luckily my husband helps out ALOT.

Knittycat said...

Aww, I hate when my kids are sick. Thank heavens for awesome big brothers, though! Remember to give him some babysitting money!
~ Kimberly
Our Family World

Ave said...

Wow, you really had a grazy day! But I really love how your son thanked you for taking care of him. So sweet!

Angel said...

What sweet words from your son. Sounds like you did have a hectic time, but what a blessing those kids are! :)

Elise said...

Wow! Sorry about the sick kiddo. Motherhood is an adventure, eh?

Lady Lilith said...

At least your son had everything under control when you got home. I guess he just missed you. I hope you son is feeling better.

Elisebet F said...

Awe, sorry, you've had such a rough time, but I'm glad it ended sweetly. :)

Sandra McCollum said...

Oh I hate weeks like that. SO sorry and hope it is over soon! Your lunch is way better than the school one!

Sarah-Louise Bailey said...

Oh no what a week - why is it all happens at once! Glad it had a nice ending though :) x

MikiHope said...

Nothing like being sick to suddenly realize how much you love and still need your Mom. Yes, your child comes before your homework and if the professor doesn't understand that--change for a different professor!!

Lisa said...

Sorrry You Had A Rough Time I Have A Boy Too We Have All Been There You Did A Great Job Of Handling The Situation Got To Love Those Crazy Days Hopefully Your Days Will Get Better!

Mama to 5 said...

yummy lunch and your kale smoothie sounds yummy - I have to try that!

Lisa said...

It so nice when our kids appreciate what we do.

Robyn Annemarie said...

Sorry you had a tough time. WE were all sick in January it was horrible!

Dawn Calgaro said...

I hate when the kids are sick. Hope he stays healthy after this!

Ckrusch said...

Hate when these things happen! Love the lunch, would never think of that combination!

Tough Cookie Mommy said...

My youngest son was sick last week with that stomach virus that is going around and it was horrible.

Marielle Altenor said...

Geez, felt like I was a passenger on that crazy train reading this! It was funny reading what you son was saying (sorry for laughing). I can't imagine how exhausted you must have been! tomorrow is another day!

Brittnei Washington said...

Wow you have 3 boys! I have one and I'm pregnant with my 2nd wondering what we will have. We find out next month! Sometimes taking care of my son can be a lot, but I never want to rush time away. I've learned that I'm going to have to lighten up with kids. Like you are saying here, things will not always go as planned, some days the house will have to be dirty with toys all over the living room. We will be fine and the house will get cleaned. :)

Danielle Leigh said...

Oh my goodness, what a sweet story! A crazy day, but so heartwarming, thank you for sharing. My boy definitely has me wrapped, all he needs to do is look at me with his big brown eyes and a little pout, and I'm in trouble. He's only four. Save me.

Pam said...

It has to be pretty stressful going to school an raising three boys. I remember going back for my post graduate degree and needing to juggle it all. Glad that you son should you how much he appreciated you.

Jaredamy said...

What a crazy day! I should try posting a snippet of my days because they are equally crazy right now with 3 kids (2 sick).

Theresa Mahoney said...

My kids do that calling over and over again to settle an argument. OMG it's so irritating. I've ended handing up on them a few times!

becca said...

wow you aren't kidding about a short order cook love you didn't lose your sense of humor and sorry that the kids are sick hope they feel better soon

Susan said...

I understand totally! I used to think, when my kids were little, that it would get easier. Now that they're tweens/teens, it's not. It's just different :)

debdenny said...

Funny how a few kind words to acknowledge what you have done for them makes for a better end to the day

Nikki said...

So, what is the correct way to say Gyro? I always say Jeye-roe. I'm horrible at phonetic spelling, lol! Sounds like a crazy day. No, things never go as planned when you're a parent!

Elizabeth said...

So sorry that last week didn't go well-- here's hoping this week is better!

Jennifer Zimmerman said...

Nothing worse than a sick kid, especially if that sickness involves vomiting. Hope you get to relax this weekend!

Eliz Frank said...

Hoping your week gets better. We put all we have into caring for our sick kids and everything else blurs.

BabsProjects said...

I am one of those scaredy cat kind of a mom. If my girls are sick, nothing gets done. I am hovering over them 24/7.

Katherine Bartlett said...

I hate when my daughter is sick. It's terrible

Celebrity VIP Lounge said...

Wow, hope your week gets better. You are a good mom!

Melanie said...

Boy, your week sure sounds like mine and my kids don't understand "Don't TXT" me either that's when I get MOM.. MOMMY.. MAMA.. MA... MAMI.. for hours.. but if I txt them in class they get mad at me.. Kids....hope this week will be better and everyone feeling well again

Courtney Pies said...

Wow, you definitely had an eventful week! Those lunches you packed look delicious, though! :)

Cheap Is The *New* Classy said...

It is so pitiful when our kids are sick. Hope everyone is well in your house soon.

Ashley Wintters said...

I hate it when my babies are sick! Hope everyone in your home gets well soon!!

Amanda Love said...

Oh I know exactly how it is when boys. My son does the same thing to me. My phone goes off at all hours and when I send his call to voicemail he texts me. It's worse when he's sick because he never leaves me alone. :)

Janeane Davis said...

When I read your story it was very familiar. Children are a great challenge to our skills and ability to go with the flow!

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